The only moment that is guaranteed to us is now. This very second. Then why do we always find ourselves contemplating about a past that we cannot change or worrying about a future that may not happen? While each of us may have our own nuanced answer to this question, it ultimately boils down to one thing: control.

When we find ourselves drowned in thoughts about a past event -- whether it was an unfaithful partner, a failed job interview, or spilled coffee on a white dress -- the questions that often come up are reflective of our attempts to reassure ourselves that we could have changed the outcome if we really wanted. If only I had spent more time preparing for the interview, I wouldn't have...continue reading